Positivity; Learning to Be More of an Optimist

I am not an optimist. I will put that out there. Alex is one of those people who can always see the good in someone, always sees the positive out of any situation and can always stay cheery in any situation.

That aint me.

I am not one of those people. I am the kind of person who thinks the worst in any situation, puts myself down about the events that have happened and panics about what is to come. God I sound so pathetic.

But hopefully a lot of you can relate? When things start to go a little wrong and you just see yourself spiralling into a little tunnel of self-doubt and pessimism. Anyone? Just me?

Well it’s time to make a change. It’s time to start seeing situations in a realistic, but also optimistic manner. So I have compiled a list of things to consider whenever something happens, whenever I start to feel myself panic and whenever I am thinking pessimistically.

What have I learnt?

One thing I do truly believe is that everything happens for a reason, and everything happens in order to teach you a lesson. So, you just need to ask yourself, well what have I learnt?

Whether it’s something as simple as ‘well I shouldn’t go down that road at rush hour’, or a real life lesson, it’s always worth thinking about what that situation has taught you.

That’s the first step in thinking positively.

Put it into perspective

One thing that I learnt about recently, and fell in love with, is the 72-hour rule;

If it won’t matter after 72 hours, it never did. If you won’t feel the need to react after 72 hours, don’t at all. If they know you’re hurting and haven’t checked up within 72 hours, move on.

If you don’t get what this means, it’s basically telling you to put things into perspective and judge whether they will matter later in life. If it doesn’t matter, it’s really not worth getting all upset about.

What good can come out of this?

Something that Alex always manages to do which I really envy him for is tell me all the good things that have come out of the situation, not got the promotion? Hey you don’t have to deal with the responsibility! Friend slipped out of your life? Hey you weren’t that close. Interview cancelled? Hey you can now sit on the sofa and binge watch Gilmore Girls.

try to think to yourself the good things that have come out of the situation because I garuntee there will be at least one!

When it comes to being optimistic, I have been taking up these tips and trying really hard to stay positive. I hope these help you and you can also learn to be a bit more optimistic!