Whenever it comes to life tips, I see so many comments about being your best self. Living your best life and being the best version of yourself that you can be. I see so many blogposts giving tips on how to be the best. The best blogger, the best girlfriend, the best employee.
But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to be the best version of yourself.
In fact, you don’t even need to be NEAR the best version of yourself.
How about instead of aiming for the best, you simply aim not to be the worst.
Hear me out. As a mental health sufferer, I have good days and I have bad days. The issue with social media is that I feel so much pressure to always have a good day. So much pressure to BE MY BEST SELF.
And I think I have finally come to the conclusion that that is the worst mind set to possibly have.
Because I wont ever be my best self. I mean maybe once or twice I will be, but it’s impossible to be my best self every minute of every day. It’s just not going to happen. Aaaaand being a perfectionist, this is a harsh truth that I have had to get my head around. It has been something that I have struggled with for a long time.
But recently I have had a mental breakthrough if you will. I have realised that actually, I have been striving for the wrong thing my whole life and god dammit why didn’t I see this sooner? I have now learnt that the end goal is not to be my best, but instead to NOT be my worst. Not being my worst is enough. It is more than enough.
Not being my worst involves me putting on trousers and heading out the door and maybe replying to one of the ten messages that I have been ignoring for weeks. Not being my worst involves putting on makeup and doing my hair and making a slight effort with my appearance. Not being my worst involves making myself dinner and brushing my hair and cleaning my teeth.
If not being my worst is the best that I can be that day, then it’s been a good day indeed.