I was pretty young when I first met my now partner, Alex. 18 to be exact. When you’re 18 you have no idea what you’re doing with your life. You’re care free and a bit of a mess really. You’re not looking for love, a relationship or a ‘life partner’. You’re just here for a good time and maybe a few laughs.
Well that’s not really what happened with me, really. I was young, I was care free, but I feel in love.
Lol sorry I kinda puked in my mouth a little because UGH I hate talking about soppy crap and love and soul mates and it feels kinda cringe, but we’re soldiering through.
Well anyway, this post is going to talk about all the things which NO ONE told you about falling in love, so if you are in love like me (still cringing) and just want a laugh and the truths of love, or if you’re looking for a life-partner and just want a few tips, here’s everything you need to know about the soppy feeling we call love.
You gotta love yourself first
Probably the biggest thing about falling in love is that no one else can love you if you don’t already love yourself. Until you know who you are and you love yourself for that, don’t even try and find someone else. No one else can love you for you, only you can do that.
Say you one more time…
There is no right time
When it comes to falling in love, it usually happens when you least expect it. I mean, I was; 18 a university fresher just here for a good time. I was NOT looking for a serious relationship, and I know that Alex wasn’t either. Sometimes falling in love can be messy, it can be complicated and I’ll tell you from experience, it can be blooming overwhelming. But when it’s right, it’s right and everything will fall into place.
I used to always see so many cases of friends falling in love and suddenly being ALL CONSUMED by this serious relationship which they had suddenly entered- and I have to admit, I kinda loathed it a little. Like I was so happy for them and I (usually) loved the guy and was always supportive of the relationship, but I just selfishly hated how much of their time it took. And how much of their time it took away from me, to be honest. But falling in love is time consuming, it’s intense and it’s overwhelming, and that’s just the way it is.
Something that you will learn quickly about being in a relationship and falling in love is that honesty is the KEY to success. If someone really wants to be with you, no truth will change that. There is no use in trying to act differently to impress them, or to lie about a fact to make them like you more. Because it will always come out eventually- so honesty really is the best policy.
You’ll loose all sense of a filter
Falling in love means someone accepting you for who you are and trust me when you say YOU REALLY SHOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE. Every quick, every weird habit or odd trait. It all comes out of the woodwork eventually and it all gets accepted. Ever think you would NEVER poo in front of someone? Think again my friend. Think again.