I know that I have not had many years of experience, but I feel like I have finally mastered how to be happy in my own skin. I feel like I am more in charge of my own happiness and no longer rely on others to provide happiness and joy in my life. So here are the things that I use as a bible in remembering how to be happy.
If they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personally
I used to take every single little thing personally and I used to be that person who got upset so easily because of that. But I saw this quote on instagram and it truly changed my life. I really stopped and thought about this. Because it was something that I have never thought about before. Why do we think that everything is personal? Especially because I play netball, and my coach doesn’t know me personally, the umpire of my game doesn’t know me personally, that girl on the other team who keeps barging me doesn’t even know my name. So why did I think that I was being targeted? why did I think that they hated me when they don’t even know me? This is something that I still have to remind myself everyday but trust me, it works.
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
I recently heard a song by Kacey Musgraves with this title and it really spoke to me. The line ‘I burnt my own damn fingers poking someone else’s fire’ resonated and I had a little epiphany. Why do I involve myself in other peoples business when I am the one getting hurt? It made no sense. So I have decided to stay out, work on myself, for myself and I am a happier person for it.
The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come
I used to constantly put myself down by thinking that I have not advanced at all, that i am a failure and should give up because the road ahead looks so long. But sometimes i need to take a step back and realise how great i am doing and how far I have come. For example I am constantly having melt downs about my college and work and everything I have to do for that. But I just need to take a step back and remind myself what I did last year, how I have already completed 70% of my English and 50% of maths and psychology. I needn’t worry and I needn’t put myself down so much. I just need to remind myself how well i am doing and how far I have come on this road
Kill them with kindness
Up until recently, (this is rather hard to admit) i was a rather petty person. If you hit me, I would hit you back. if you didn’t reply to my text, i wont reply to the next three of yours. But recently I have realised that doing that never helps me. It never makes me feel good and it never brings happiness. I was feeling more and more like a Scrooge the way i was carrying on. So recently I have come up with the philosophy that the best thing to be is kind. Whether they retaliate that or not. You should be a kind person and let that be the thing they remember you by. I have found that since doing this, turmoil relationships have improved and I have found nothing but happiness from it.
Don’t let their negative energy drain your light
We all know that there are many negative people in this world. be it on the internet or in real life, And they never help. They wont make you happy and nothing good will come from them. So don’t let them deny you your positivity. Do not allow their negativity to affect you in any way. Stay positive and allow yourself to be happy.
I hope these tips have helped. I know that this was a rather long and dippy blogpost but I have felt so much more connected to staying positive and doing myself well recently, so I hope that you enjoy that!!